We Left Las Vegas with a Small Fortune

TOO BAD WE HAD ARRIVED THERE WITH A LARGE ONE.

WRAPPED AND PADDED

Actually, neither of the preceding statements is true.  But at least we have, finally and permanently, left Las Vegas.  It wasn’t the happiest chapter in our lives, and that chapter is now very happily closed.  We made our final trip back Tuesday and drove home Saturday in a rented cargo van carrying the few antiques and family heirlooms that we had in storage.  The drive from Irvine to Vegas on Tuesday in the empty van was noisy and bouncy.  Jerry took three Dramamine along the way and still felt the need to do all the driving.  The return trip in a van lightly filled with furniture heavily wrapped in moving blankets was much less noisy and a bit less bouncy.  Jerry took only two Dramamine but still left me to ride shotgun.

We thought driving back from Vegas on New Year’s Day would be a good idea.  Most people would be too hung over to be making the trip home.  We were right.  We passed just a few die-hards heaving on the tumbleweeds at the side of the road.

Instead of taking some random photos along the way, I should have been taking shots of those poor unfortunates as well as the drivers I saw texting with one hand and holding a cup of coffee in the other as they passed us as if we were standing still.  They were easy to spot because they were veering wildly and not holding to their lanes.

JUST AFTER PASSING THE WOMAN PRAYING FOR FORGIVENESS

The highlight for me, however, was the woman driving the red Dodge Caliber.  She was driving slightly slower than our 70 mph, but was still having a very difficult time staying in her lane.  As we approached, I noticed she had a silver metal Jesus fish on the back of her car right next to a large “Support Our Troops” ribbon decal.  Opposite those were a sticker that read, “Christians aren’t perfect.  Just saved.” and another that read simply “JESUS.”  Well, when I peered down into her car from my birds-eye view as we drove by, I saw that she was reading a bible — holding it with both hands atop the steering wheel so that she could glance at the road every now and again.  I can only imagine the recent sins for which she needed forgiveness.  But I hope the imperfect-but-saved idiot was also praying for the safe transit of the drivers around her.

A COUPLE OF FRUITS… NO VEGETABLES.

We and our load of antiques were easily cleared through the California Agricultural Inspection station (four lanes, no waiting) and arrived home safely despite the crazies on the road.

A Few More Steps Closer to Spain

Our first apostille-stamped document welcomed us home.  So this was a another week of progress toward our move to Spain.

— Furniture out of Vegas: Check.

— Apostille of Marriage Certificate: Check.

— Large donation of ToldemArt stock and supplies to Goodwill:  Check.

— Enjoying a performance of “Jersey Boys”:  Check.
Well, that wasn’t on the list, but we finally saw it and the show lived up to the hype.  We loved it.

We will be in Sevilla to find an apartment in less than two weeks.  And I got a new pair of traveling shoes today!

VELCRO FOR EASY OFF AND ON THROUGH SECURITY (and to drive Jerry nuts with the sound)

Knights on White Horses

AND OTHER REALITIES

When my sister Dale was 21, she was traveling in Europe and met the man of her dreams.  He was British.  Four months later, he flew to New York to marry her and two days after that she returned with him to the UK.  She stayed briefly in Edinburgh, then South Yorkshire before heading to Germany for a couple of years and then back to England for good.  I visited them for the first time when they were married only six months and she had just learned she was pregnant.  The baby was due two weeks after their first anniversary.  I had just turned 19.  I flew to England with no plan except to hang out with my sister and her knight.  I stayed way too long (five weeks, I think), but they never let on and I then flew to Italy to see a friend.  When I returned to New York, I was visiting with a cousin who always surprised me with her insights.  She was five years older than Dale.

My cousin said, “I always worried about Dale.  She lived in this fantasy that a knight in shining armor was going to sweep her off her feet and take her away to a foreign land.  I thought she was going to be heart-broken when she discovered that that just doesn’t happen.  Then, it turns out she was right.  Along comes her prince.”

I didn’t know how to tell my cousin that Dale and I lived in that same world, and if it had been unlikely Dale’s prince would arrive, what were the chances I’d ever get one.

Sadly, well heartbreakingly, Dale died of cancer less than nine years after getting  married.  But she died very much in love and very much loved.  Five months later, I met Jerry in Boston.  He was from South Dakota.  Definitely a foreign land.  As a matter of fact, to a New Yorker, South Dakota is more foreign than England.  So, I got my knight in shining armor, too.  And I hope he got his.

By the time Jerry and I met we had both already begun to sweep ourselves away to places less familiar, and we’ve continued to be swept — together.  It’s funny how, after all this time, I can still see the knight.  The armors been in and out of hock and it doesn’t fit quite the way it used to, but he’s still pretty shiny.

Putting A Ring On It

So, after being together for more than 29 years, and having registered as domestic partners when it became legal in California in 2003, we finally took the step we thought we would never take and we were legally married in 2010.  We thought we would never take the step because: (1) when we met in 1981 it never dawned on us that it was in the realm of possibility, and (2) we were a bit radical in our politics and felt we didn’t need conventional validation.  Well, times change.  We still don’t need conventional validation, but we do expect to be treated equally.

To be honest, we might never have chosen to legally marry had it not been for our Spanish visa applications.

We wondered if our domestic partnership would be clear enough for Spain — where people like us can legally marry, not just domestically partner.  Since we’re applying together for residency visas (if I’m not approved, then Jerry’s not going), the marriage certificate is a good idea.

Five states and the District of Columbia have legalized same-sex marriage.  So, our options were four of the New England states (Connecticut, Massachusets, New Hampshire, and Vermont), Washington, D.C., and Iowa.  Iowa!  California — “land of fruit and nuts, and home to all those liberals” — California only briefly allowed gay marriage before special interest groups, primarily from out of state, put an end to that.  We’ll see what happens with that legal battle in early 2011, but until then California will not give us a marriage certificate.  So, we chose Iowa.  Close to our South Dakota family who could celebrate with us.  And tremendously ironic we thought.  Leaving liberal California to get married in Iowa.  Yep, you really ought to give Iowa a try.

For weeks we discussed the logistics of our Iowa wedding.  As far as we were concerned, it was simply a piece of paper.  After some conversations with staff at the county courthouse in Sioux City, Jerry made the arrangements and then connected with a wonderful minister.  Her first question:  “Will you be writing your own vows?”

Vows?  Who said anything about vows?  Do we need vows?  I don’t want to do vows.  I don’t want everything getting all sappy.  It’s not necessary.  This is just a piece of paper.  (Besides, I tear up easily.)

Her next question: “What about rings?”

Rings?  Now we need rings?  Who said anything about getting rings?  Come on.  We’re not going to need a cake, are we?

So, Jerry and I talked.  Jerry wrote vows and I approved them.  No mention of God.  And an acknowledgment that we were already “married” 29 years.  This is just for a piece of paper and will absolutely not take over as our anniversary.

We agreed to get rings.  That might be fun after all.  We found heavy tungsten steel bands, a combination of brushed and polished.  We had our initials and our real anniversary engraved inside.  It was reassuring to know that if I ever got my ring finger stuck in a car door, the ring would not bend.

Some days later, Jerry suggested we wear our Norwegian sweaters (a generous Christmas gift from Peege in 2009) for the ceremony.  And I thought, ‘Crap.  I didn’t even think about the fact that we’d have to WEAR something.’  (At least we wouldn’t be in the blue paisley brocade tuxedos my brother and I wore for my bar mitzvah.  But, then again…)

MOMENTS BEFORE WE COMMITTED OURSELVES FOR ALL OF ETERNITY

I won’t go into detail here about the wedding ceremony except to say that we were in wonderful company in a charming park on the Missouri River in Sioux City, Iowa at sunset.  It took 15 minutes, after which we all drove back to Sioux Falls, South Dakota for an excellent and joyful dinner.

OK, I’ll admit it was really moving.  It turned out to be a lot more than a piece of paper for us both.  I tried to make jokes during the ceremony to avoid tearing up.  But, after the second joke, I figured I’d get in trouble.  So, I stopped joking and I starting tearing up — a lot.

For a bit of local color:  We spent much of our 1-1/4-hour drive from Sioux Falls to Sioux City behind a truck filled with pigs.  It took us an hour to figure out where the awful smell was coming from.

Progress on our now-17-page spreadsheet:

Our Iowa marriage certificate has been translated into Spanish and is currently with the State Department for the required apostille (in essence, an international notary). 

Most importantly, Jerry told me I had better be serious about staying together.  He read that if we decide to divorce, Iowa law requires us to live there for a year.  No offense, Iowa, but that will never happen.

Thanks Iowa for making our wedding day possible and memorable.

The Leaning Tower of … Kransekake

“I think the kransekake is starting to slide a little bit.”

If Siri hadn’t glanced over at that very moment, our kransekake would have very shortly looked like one of this holiday season’s rain-soaked California hillsides.

CRACKS AND BULGES ARE IGNORED

From the start, the kransekake looked nothing like last year’s.  The rings were much more “cake-like.”  They had expanded in their trays while baking and we had to carefully cut them apart.  The taste was wonderful, but they were kind of puffy and had a very rough texture.  They really should be hard and chewy, and smooth.  Miraculously, Jerry was still able to assemble them into their tower.  What we didn’t realize was that the tower was immediately irregular and had already begun it’s “slide” just a few minutes later.

I hope you noticed that I’ve included myself in the making of the kransekake.  I don’t deserve much credit or, again, blame, but I did help skin the almonds after Jerry blanched them.  And I did remove most of the rings from the pans.  As a matter of fact, I did more than just help “cook” the kransekake.  After dinner, I also “cooked” tea for our friend Mark.  I placed the mug in the microwave and placed the teabag in the cup.  I did so twice.  Of course, when I made the first cup, I heard the microwave beep and asked Jerry what he had the timer set for.  It was very stressful.

A SLIGHT DIP GOES UNNOTICED

By the time Siri made her comment about the kransekake’s sideways momentum, it already resembled the shape of the Christmas tree in Whoville.  But we had all had a few glasses of Siri’s Swedish Christmas glögg, so everything in the house had that same basic look. 

FULL-TILT BOOGIE

Jerry carefully carried the kransekake back into the kitchen.  It continued to change it’s shape.  So, he  separated it into two sections that we proceeded to pick apart and enjoy.  It wasn’t pretty but it still tasted good.

PERHAPS A LITTLE OBSCENE?

So, Christmas cookies and kransekake were not successes this year.  But, Jerry’s famous lemon meringue pie and Norwegian Christmas bread (Bergensk julevørterbrød) were both perfect.  Next year, we’ll start some of our own Andalusian traditions.

Most importantly, thanks to Siri, we now know that everything looks better after a glass of glögg.

JERRY & MITCHELL’S ORIGINAL WHOVILLE KRANSEKAKE

King Kong’s Christmas Kransekake

This requires a bit of explaining.  First, Jerry is heavily into genealogy.  He’s 13th-generation Lowell in America.  His 10-greats grandfather arrived in the colonies from Bristol England in 1639; he had four ancestors on the Mayflower; another 9-greats grandfather (George Jacobs) was found guilty of witchcraft and hanged in Salem, Massachusetts in 1692.

“TRIAL OF GEORGE JACOBS, AUGUST 5, 1692.”

I had always been very impressed with this fascinating history until Jerry was able to dig even deeper and discovered royal lineage going way back.  Much of this traces through his Norwegian ancestry and I, wanting to know how His Royal Highness King Jerry should be properly addressed, looked up the word “king” in Norwegian.  I was surprised to discover that the Norwegian word for “king” is “kong.”  (So, the film title “King Kong” is redundant.)

I have a fondness for nicknames and at the time I learned about kong, I was partnering on some accounts at my then-job with a wonderful woman who also had a fondness for nicknames.  I had become known to her as MK (I’ll tell that story another day) and she had become known to me as Peege (and I can’t for the life of me remember why except that it evolved from the initials “PG,” which are not her initials).

Where was I?  Oh… as soon as I told Peege the Norwegian word for king, Jerry was blessed with a new name:  Kong.  But, I don’t call Jerry “Kong” very often — really only when Peege and I are talking about him.  Peege, on the other hand, now only thinks of Jerry as “Kong.”

So, that explains Kong and also King in the title of this post.  You have probably figured out the word Christmas entirely on your own.  Now for Kransekake (pronounced “krahn-seh kah-keh”).

CONSTRUCTING KONG’S (JERRY’S) KRANSEKAKE, CHRISTMAS 2009

In Norwegian, kransekake means literally ring (or wreath) cake.  It’s served on special occasions, like weddings and baptisms, Christmas and New Year’s Eve.  The first time we had it (or heard of it) was during the Christmas we spent with family in Bergen, Norway in 2004.  As you can see in the pictures, kransekake is created from a series of concentric rings that form a steep cone.  We’ve seen it decorated with little Norwegian flags and Christmas poppers.  But, since we did not plan in advance — last Christmas or this — Jerry’s kransekake is more simply adorned.

KONG’S COMPLETED KRANSEKAKE, CHRISTMAS 2009.

I’ll post photos of Jerry’s 2010 kransekake once he’s made it.  I’ll also post the recipe for the serious bakers out there.  This is not for the novice.  If you believe you can make a vanilla cake by buying a box of chocolate cake mix and just omitting the packet of chocolate powder, this recipe is not for you.  If you see no reason to separate yolks from whites when you discover they’re all going to be mixed together at the end anyway, this recipe is not for you.  And if you believe you can cut baking time in half by doubling oven temperature, this recipe is absolutely not for you.  (This recipe is not for me.)

In the meantime, Kong is busy right now kneading the dough for his Bergensk julevørterbrød.  And he bought a really fine bottle of Andalusian sherry to help us get in practice for next year in Seville.

Wishing you god jul; feliz navidad; and merry Christmas.

Cookie Tulip, Social Security Cards, and the Pineapple Express

In 1969, I knew a person by the name of Cookie Tulip.  She was not the daughter of hippies; she was herself a hippie.  As far as I can remember, that was her name by birth.  I do clearly remember that her parents’ names were Saul and Bess Tulip.

The only reason I mention Cookie Tulip is because I wanted to use her name in the title of this post.  Other than that, she has nothing whatsoever to do with this post, except for the fact that her first name was Cookie and Jerry and I just baked cookies.

Initially, I thought I was going to write about this, the last time Jerry and I would bake Christmas cookies for our last Christmas in the USA.  Then, I thought, ‘Well, that’s depressing.’  I don’t like the idea of “last times.”  There are, of course, exceptions.  I was very pleased that the first time I had my wisdom teeth pulled was also the last time I would ever have them pulled.  It was a relief to know that George W. Bush’s last state of the union address was his LAST state of the union address.  But, in general, I like to leave the door open.  So instead of writing about our last time to bake Christmas cookies in the USA, I decided instead to write about the FIRST time Jerry and I would bake Christmas cookies in Irvine since we didn’t bake cookies our previous Christmas here.

The cookies turned out to be such a laughable disaster that we’ve decided we’ll be baking another batch this week to redeem our Christmas cookie integrity.  So, after all my “last” issues, they didn’t end up being possibly the last cookies we would bake here anyway.

Since I don’t cook (and baking falls under that blanket category for me — as does nuking a bowl of instant oatmeal), I don’t really have to take the blame for the “spritz” cookies that wouldn’t spritz out of the manual cookie press I bought for Jerry (at his request) from Williams Sonoma a couple of years ago.  But I do enjoy decorating cookies.  And since, after about two hours, we managed to produce only about three dozen almost passable little cookies that I then proceeded to make even more hideous with my trimmings, I finally do have to share some responsibility.

Jerry thinks he figured out what went wrong with the cookie press.  So, ginger bread spritz cookies are still to come.  Keep a good thought for us… and the cookies.

SOCIAL SECURITY CARDS

We can check off another couple of items on our to-do list.  We drove over to the Social Security office in Mission Viejo today.  When the Social Security Administration went electronic some years ago, a data entry error was made and the spelling of Jerry’s name was changed.  We can’t have any confusion when we submit our visa applications, so Jerry had that corrected today.  At the same time, I thought it might be a good idea to order a new card for myself since my existing card was issued when my parents opened my first savings account.  The split goatskin has yellowed and the corners are frayed — not to mention that when I was in college I wrote a girl’s phone number on the back.  OK, it’s not really goatskin, but it is yellowed and dog-eared.  And by the way, Claudia Harfenist, I tried your number and it’s been disconnected.

FDR SIGNING SOCIAL SECURITY ACT…  THIS WAS LONG BEFORE I WAS BORN.
PINEAPPLE EXPRESS

OK.  The rain has become a bit boring… not to mention extremely depressing.  We saw a break in the nearest layer of clouds today.  Sadly, all it revealed was the next layer of clouds.  That’s as much “sun” as we’ve had in a very long time.  I think we’ve had half our annual allotment of rain this past week.  I may be exaggerating, but not by much.  Apparently, there’s what is described as a “conveyor belt of moisture stretching all the way to Hawaii.”  It’s called the Pineapple Express.  It sounds so much sweeter than it is.  Well, from my perspective, at least it’s not snow.