I Thought One Was Enough

On our 1st anniversary, San Geraldo and I catered a huge party at our place in Boston. We invited everyone we knew in town. Most came. I think many figured it would be the one and only anniversary we’d ever have. Some, I’m sure, were surprised we had lasted even that long. I know San Geraldo and I were both pretty impressed with ourselves. Neither of us had had a year-long live-in relationship. Before San Geraldo, I couldn’t even stand having a roommate. I never imagined I could survive sharing a home, not to mention an entire life, with someone else. Especially not someone so much larger than life.

SEATTLE, 1982. THE MAGIC TEN MONTHS IN. (I WONDER WHAT I WAS THINKING.)

Nine years later, on our 10th anniversary, we catered a huger party at our home in Guilford (we had already lived together in Boston, Massachusetts; Marina del Rey, California; Washington, D.C.; and New Haven and then Guilford, Connecticut). Ten friends who had been there for the 1st anniversary returned for the 10th. Ten years seemed like an amazingly long time to be together.

Today is our 32nd anniversary, which is well-timed because one of my recent Spanish lessons included the phrases, “Nos casamos hace [treinta y dos] años” or “Llevamos casados [treinta y dos] años” (We have been married [32] years). In these additional 22 years, we’ve been through life in San Diego, San Francisco, Palm Springs, Santa Barbara, Las Vegas, Irvine, Sevilla, and now Fuengirola.

We’ve struggled and thrived (over and over again). We’ve grown. We’ve become more relaxed and easy going. We’ve become more set in our ways (and, in San Geraldo’s case, more crotchety). We’ve become more open-minded and more opinionated. We have evolved. We have reverted. We are, neither of us, entirely, the men who started.

Happy Anniversary to my very own San Geraldo who has made life, although not always easier, so much richer — and better and more worthwhile — than I knew it to be.

From “Into The Woods”

“Into the woods.
Then out of the woods.
And happy ever after!”

Author: Moving with Mitchell

From Brooklyn, New York; to North Massapequa; back to Brooklyn; Brockport, New York; back to Brooklyn... To Boston, Massachusetts, where I met Jerry... To Marina del Rey, California; Washington, DC; New Haven and Guilford, Connecticut; San Diego, San Francisco, Palm Springs, and Santa Barbara, California; Las Vegas, Nevada; Irvine, California; Sevilla, Spain. And Fuengirola, Málaga..

40 thoughts on “I Thought One Was Enough”

  1. Congratulations! Isn't it wonderful to have someone to share experiences? The fun thing is that they never have the same experience. Makes it interesting.

  2. Happy Anniversary! The "then" photo is very nice, but there should be a "now" photo to show how happy you two are 32 years later… maybe include your children, Moose and Dudo. Congratulations!

  3. So much to say…first, congratulations. I know exactly how it feels. After a nine year anniversary, I thought even nine weeks would be too long to be with just one person.

    I raise my glass to you and toast to your good health and to the longevity of the relationship, and of course to you.

    saludos,
    raulito

    1. Raul:
      I remember a former friend saying, "Ah, love. Well, how long is THIS going to last? A month?" I told him it had already been three months. He was shocked and apologized. He didn't realize it was so "serious."

      Thanks so much for the toast!

  4. Happy Anniversary you two!
    Mitch you have nailed what a long-term relationship entails. congratulations and here's to a great day to celebrate.

  5. THIRTY TWO YEARS!!! That really deserves a huge "WOW!" Immense congratulations to the both of you.
    And you, Mitch, haven't changed one little bit after thirty ONE years. Now which one is you? (Nice purple sweater, by the way.)

    Looking forward to reading the blog of your dual adventures in 2045. Meantime, congrats again and again.

  6. Happy 32nd anniversary! I love the picture! San Geraldo and you are such a great match. Filled with love and respect for each other. I am so happy for you both. Thank you for sharing your travels. Love to you and San Geraldo.

  7. Many congratulations to you both. It's not always easy (I know) but so worthwhile. I sometimes think that couples don't try hard enough to get through the rough patches without throwing in the towel. 36 years here (and feeling the aches today)!

    1. Craig:
      I think it's important (though difficult) to be able to admit when it's not right, but I agree with you than many couples don't try hard enough. It's not easy, but can be so worthwhile. Congratulations on your 36 years together!!!

  8. You are one precocious poster! I found you've posted three times since my last visit. Best wishes to you and Jerry on your 32 years. Obviously the frequent changes of scenery have kept your relationship fresh.

    1. Ms. Sparrow:
      My goal (fantasy) is to post every day. That lasts for three or four days sometimes!

      San Geraldo and I both agreed that our first move (from Boston to Los Angeles) 1 year and 3 months into our relationship was what helped solidify things. We knew hardly anyone and became each other's best friends and sole(soul) support.

  9. 32 years! Congrats and happy anniversary. I am truly happy for you and San Geraldo. You two are blessed you know, it's not everyone who is lucky enough to find their soul mate.

    I'll be raising a glass to you both at dinner tonight. A good Kiwi red, of course.

    And wow, haven't you lived in a lot of places! You two don't half get about!

    1. Judith:
      I raised a glass of cheap Spanish red (still good but I'm sure not as good as yours). People used to ask my mother why she didn't move to California to live closer to us and she always said, "They'll just move again!"

  10. Happy, happy anniversary to you both! I'm so happy for you guys and impressed by you all at once.

    Side note–I love Sondheim, and especially Into the Woods!

  11. Mitch, re your reply to my comment above (sorry, still can't reply in the right place, even with this 'improved' computer) – using the words 'ass' and 'tongue' in the same sentence is really living dangerously – but don't stop.

  12. Well, thank goodness that the good D.D., being a lady of some 'innocence', I'm sure, will not quite understand what is being referred to. (Phew! That was close!)

  13. 32 years so VERY HAPPY for you both. I admire the will you both have to face the ups and downs of your relationship. Seriously, though life throws at you what you can handle and you both have down a great job with that.

    All the best on your Anniversary Weekend!

    Ron

    Psst ~~ Seriously you 2 look exactly alike, mirror image….what's that all about?

    *smiles*

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