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As I’ve mentioned, I’ve been spending a lot of time in bed during the day. It’s not as bad as it was last week, but I still run out of steam quickly and need to lie down. During one of those lie-downs, I had an intense dream that I was going to see my sister Dale’s best childhood friend whom I hadn’t seen since 1964. [That wasn’t actually true; in reality, I had seen her once in the ’70s.] In the dream we had a devastatingly emotional reunion where we both hugged and sobbed about Dale because she had been gone 43 years. When I woke up I realized the 43rd anniversary of Dale’s death had passed 7 March and I hadn’t even noticed. Or, well, I hadn’t consciously noticed. That’s two generations ago. Five months before I met San Geraldo. And I’m still in my 20s! How did that happen?
The little statuette at top was given to me by Dale in December 1971 just before I went away to university.
Como mencioné, paso mucho tiempo en la cama durante el día. No es tan malo como la semana pasada, pero todavía me quedo sin fuerzas rápidamente y necesito acostarme. Durante una de esas tumbadas, tuve un sueño intenso en el que iba a ver al mejor amigo de la infancia de mi hermana Dale, a quien no había visto desde 1964. [En realidad, eso no era cierto; en realidad, la había visto una vez en los años 70.] En el sueño tuvimos una reunión devastadoramente emocional en la que ambos nos abrazamos y sollozamos por Dale porque ella se había ido 43 años. Cuando desperté me di cuenta de que el 43º aniversario de la muerte de Dale había pasado el 7 de marzo y ni siquiera me había dado cuenta. O, bueno, no lo había notado conscientemente. Eso fue hace dos generaciones. Cinco meses antes de conocer a San Geraldo. ¡Y todavía tengo 20 años! ¿Cómo ocurrió eso?
La pequeña estatuilla de arriba me la regaló Dale en diciembre de 1971, justo antes de irme a la universidad. La pegatina dice: “En esos momentos tranquilos en los que estás a solas contigo mismo, piensa en mí de vez en cuando.”
We have found that our energy will always come back to us on its terms. Things just are not the same as they were when we were younger. Lots have been going on in your family as of late.
Sweet Dale and you in the photo.
Jim:
It’s been an exhausting time lately. That is one of my favorite photos of Dale and me.
It’s eerie how our unconscious works, isn’t it? It knows things our conscious mind does not and yet we so often think our conscious mind is the whole ballgame.
Debra:
I do often question WHY I’m feeling a certain why and then can sometimes come up with the subconscious reason. I was so overwhelmed with obvious things this past month that it didn’t even dawn on me to question.
I’ll be in Cordoba next week!!
Margaret:
Exciting. Have a great trip. Email me if you have time: mscottlowell@gmail.com
I always hate having dreams of different ages. Haven’t had one in a bit.
Adam:
I find them fascinating. This dream was current age.
I think that the body remembers what the mind does not always. Or something like that. I have frequently found myself so very, very down for no apparent reason only to realize that it has been the anniversary of someone I loved’s passing. And my husband, for several years, would experience a few weeks of anxiety and depression (something almost unheard of for him) around the anniversary of his sister’s death. He refused to believe there was a connection but I think there was.
Forty-three years is nothing when we are talking about a loss of that magnitude.
I really hope that you can start feeling better. This is not right.
Ms. Moon
MsMaryMoon:
I agree with all you say. In years past I would be feeling down or anxious and then realize it was the anniversary. This year was surprising, but still it was there. So many different things define or permanently impact our lives. This was one of the hardest things for me. My grandfather’s younger sister died in the flu epidemic in 1918. We took them to the cemetery on Staten Island every year and I remember in the early 70s my mother muttering disgustedly to me: “She’s been dead 60 years and they’re STILL crying.” I was more empathetic and NOW I completely understand.
And I understand too. We never really “get over” certain things. We just learn to live with them.
MsMoon:
These all just become a part of you. And that’s ok.
I remember that little statuette from an earlier post. Funny how the mind works.
Steve:
The flower child sits on my desk so I can think of Dale in every quiet moment.
Isn’t it cool the way your subconscious mind keeps working along in the background? And yours spoke to you through your dream! I was reading a news article just yesterday about the importance of siblings in one’s development. You and Dale had something really special and sweet.
Wilma:
Dale and I helped each other survive our childhoods. She was often my protector and I was her sounding board. We were so different but so incredibly close.
LOVE 💜💔
Funny…I bet that little statue is from a hallmark store , as one vivid memory I have of Dale is her taking me shop there and I wanted to buy a get well card for Mark when he was in the hospital, then I overheard her tell your Mom I wanted to get the card but she didn’t let me get it .. knowing his condition and he wouldn’t have ever seen it .. 🥲
Sheree:
I remember hearing about that from my mother, who seemed to think that was right. I wonder what the right thing to do would have been in that situation. And Dale was only 17 herself. When my father was in the hospital that last week, your mother brought a helium-filled get well balloon even though she knew it wasn’t going to happen. (It drove him crazy tied to the foot of the bed and bouncing all over the place. He half-laughed when I arrived and saw it and then whispered, “Get it out of here.”)
Dreams are do odd. I don’t know if the mind knows things we’re not aware of, or whether it’s the brain resetting. I do think the body remembers and notes events of our lives. I hope your energy returns soon. Boud.
Boud:
I’m not one for interpretation of dreams, but sometimes they’re obvious.
That’s a sweet (but sad) little statue. I agree with Mary that our bodies/subconscious hold on to dates of trauma and sadness and it’s not unusual for dreams like yours to surface. I’ve been dreaming of my dad once or twice a week since he died in January. I don’t recall ever dreaming of him before he died.
Mitchell, I hope you feel better soon. I worry when you sound so down. Sending you a long, hard, virtual hug. xx Please take care of yourself!
J Barlow:
When Dale gave me that statue I remember thinking it was sweet (the sticker, not so much the flower child). I had no idea how much it would mean to me as time passed. Don’t worry about me. As they say, this too shall pass. Thanks for the great hug.
Sweet! Jx
Jon:
I had no idea how much that little message would come to mean to me, and not many years after she gave it to me.
If I read that right, San Geraldo never knew Dale. I didn’t know that.
Kirk:
I met San Geraldo 5 months after Dale died. I was quite a mess at the time, and for some time to come. They would have loved each other.
That sweet picture of you and Dale just warms my heart every time I see it.
J Chabot:
Thanks, Judy. It‘s one of my favorite photos.
I think Dale popped into your dream just to remind you that she’s still around you. I have always sensed a remarkable bond between you two.
Bob:
I do love that my dream reminded me of the date that had passed. Dale and I had a powerful and, I think, unusual connection.