Damaged / Dañado

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I’VE DONE SOME VERY PLEASANT things in recent days and I lead a very fortunate life with so much to be grateful for. I even went back to Mesón Salvador today for coffee with Tynan; we were met a bit later by Elena and their son Alexander, who just got his license and went out for his first spin in his mother’s car — with lots of color commentary and “backseat driving” from his mother. It’s a big SUV, perfect for Alexander the surfer and his friends.

I wouldn’t mind being a bit more like Alexander. I have another driving “lesson” tomorrow and, if left to my own devices, I’d probably cancel the whole thing. Yes, I’m a good and experienced driver, but it’s still possible I won’t pass the driving exam. I won’t get into my history today. Suffice it to say, childhood verbal and emotional abuse remains planted in one’s brain for a lifetime. Some people overcome it more successfully than others. I’ve done well, but being “instructed” in this way is the kind of thing that sets me off. I know it seems trivial to most people, but it pushes all my buttons. We can talk more about it when I get my license. Meanwhile, here are some things to brighten our day.


HE HECHO ALGUNAS COSAS MUY agradables en los últimos días y llevo una vida muy afortunada con mucho que agradecer. Incluso volví hoy a Mesón Salvador a tomar un café con Tynan; nos encontramos un poco más tarde con Elena y su hijo Alexander, que acaba de obtener su licencia y salió a dar su primera vuelta en el auto de su madre, con muchos comentarios en color y “conducción en el asiento trasero” de su madre. Es un gran SUV, perfecto para Alexander el surfista y sus amigos.

No me importaría ser un poco más como Alexander. Tengo otra “lección” de conducción mañana y, si me dejaran con mis propios dispositivos, probablemente cancelaría todo. Sí, soy un buen conductor y con experiencia, pero aún es posible que no apruebe el examen de conducir. No entraré en mi historia hoy. Baste decir que el abuso verbal y emocional infantil permanece plantado en el cerebro durante toda la vida. Algunas personas lo superan con más éxito que otras. Lo he hecho bien, pero ser “instruido” de esta manera es el tipo de cosas que me ponen en marcha. Sé que parece trivial para la mayoría de la gente, pero me empuja a todos los botones. Podemos hablar más al respecto cuando obtenga mi carnet. Mientras tanto, aquí hay algunas cosas para alegrar nuestro día.

• Did you wear cabana suits when you were a child? I did. It seems they’re back — and not just for the cabana. This one was in Mijas Pueblo. Mine were always lined in terry cloth.
• ¿Usaste trajes de cabaña cuando eras niño? Yo hice. Parece que han vuelto, y no solo por la cabaña. Este fue en Mijas Pueblo. Los míos siempre estaban forrados en felpa.
• This was so much “better” from the front. Both legs were tucked up high with excess fabric hanging like a large, swaying “appendage.” I hadn’t even noticed her.
• Esto fue mucho “mejor” desde el frente. Ambas piernas estaban recogidas en alto con un exceso de tela colgando como un gran “apéndice” que se balanceaba. Ni siquiera me había fijado en ella.
• Obviously, both legs had been rolled up and one was drooping, but he’s still got the look.
• Obviamente, ambas piernas estaban enrolladas y una estaba caída, pero todavía tiene la apariencia.
• The new vinery (there’s a mix) is growing fast and the garderners continue to add wire trellis.
• La nueva viña (hay un surtido) está creciendo rápidamente y los jardineros continúan agregando enrejados de alambre.
• And it’s even beginning to bloom.
• E incluso está comenzando a florecer.
• Across the street from Mesón Salvador.
• Al otro lado de la calle de Mesón Salvador.
• One of the newly planted palm trees, still tied to protect the heart, and beginning to bloom.
• Una de las palmeras recién plantadas, todavía atada para proteger el corazón, y comenzando a florecer.
• One of a cluster of trees just before the port. All in bloom.
• Uno de un grupo de árboles justo antes del puerto. Todo en flor.


Author: Moving with Mitchell

From Brooklyn, New York; to North Massapequa; back to Brooklyn; Brockport, New York; back to Brooklyn... To Boston, Massachusetts, where I met Jerry... To Marina del Rey, California; Washington, DC; New Haven and Guilford, Connecticut; San Diego, San Francisco, Palm Springs, and Santa Barbara, California; Las Vegas, Nevada; Irvine, California; Sevilla, Spain. And Fuengirola, Málaga..

26 thoughts on “Damaged / Dañado”

  1. David is right – we love you as you are. I mean, who else would think of cabana suits when looking at that first photo? He does look like an overgrown kid. “This is me” could be him as well!

    Seems the planners of the plaza have some tricks up their sleeves with the flowering vines and flower towers. It is looking a little more user friendly.

    1. Wilma:
      I agree about the plaza. It’s still a strange space, but the vinery will help and those flower towers add so much color.

  2. I did not know palm tress had blooms! all the flowers are lovely. that woman’s swim bottoms seem to be missing some fabric; she needs a cabana suit. and how is everyone at meson salvador? you will pass your driver’s test just fine!

    1. anne marie:
      Oh, yeah, palm trees can be glorious when in bloom. I’ll try to share others through the season. Just think of all the fruit-bearing palm trees: like dates, coconuts, palmettos, acai berries… First come the flowers. And the seeds blow in all directions created new palm trees. We had a volunteer in our driveway in San Diego that had to pulled out using a chain attached to a truck. They have tap roots that go straight down into the ground… forever.

  3. I’ve a feeling you’ll do just fine!

    As for that cabana suit thing, I never!!! Never. I’d rather mix plaids and strips than wear some Garanimal-looking mess!!

    1. Bob:
      I remember those cabana suits from when i was under 5 years old. They’re just too precious to me for adults. But I’ve seen them around again. More power to those guys.

  4. What a treat to catch up this lovely Sunday afternoon, with your words and thoughts and pictures, Mitchell. Of course, I’m pulling for you with the driving license issue… yikes! Deep breaths, and chocolate. It’s got to be maddening to have someone instructing you on something you’ve been doing for decades. I can’t wait to find out that you’ve finally been awarded your license over there!

    I LOVE the wall with the gorgeous bowls… geeeee, you’ve got such a natural eye for the perfect combinations of colors and items to display. I tend to think I have a good idea, and then not love the way I end up putting it together. You are the master!

    1. Judy C:
      I wish you could be in the passenger seat when I take the exam. As it is, the examiner sits in back and the instructor sits in front — in case he has to slam on the brakes himself.

      We’ve had plenty of ideas that didn’t work the way we imagined. But we’re not afraid to experiment. This one was SG’s idea and I was the executioner making decisions as I went along.

  5. I suffer from similar issues, so I understand completely.

    I absolutely love this song. So moving and powerful!

    1. Anon:
      Thanks for the understanding and I’m sorry you live with this, as well.

  6. You are NOT Alexander….you are you. And you got this! I think you are ‘making up stories in your head’ and expanding on them, like a lot of us do. And in the end all turns out well.
    One could probably watch all the plants grow where you are along the Mediterranean.

    1. Jim:
      I don’t so much make up stories as hear voices.

      Like San Diego, it’s amazing to see how quickly things grow here. Very long growing season.

  7. Hugs! And I failed my first driver test ( might have been a 16 year old trying to parallel park a 1976 ford LTD station wagon that was about 50 foot long or felt like it) You’ve got this my friend!

    1. Cheapchick:
      I didn’t so much mind failing my first driving test when I was 16 (although I wasn’t even told why; I think the examiner just didn’t want to put another hippie on the road). I did my two tests in my father’s 1969 4-door Chevy Impala. Amazingly, I parked perfectly (all three times the examiners required me to do it). I think the second examiner wasn’t thrilled with the hippie either. He made me do everything twice. It took so long, my father had thought there was an accident. Surprisingly, I did everything perfectly twice and the examiner grudgingly passed me (very obviously grudgingly).

    1. Tundra Bunny:
      The Kid Brother strongly believes in rabbit’s feet. So, I’m sure I’m set now. Thanks.

  8. Much luck with your test, you will do wonderful.
    The woman’s bathing suit is gross. Just think where the string is. yuck.
    All the flowers are lovely !

    1. Parsnip:
      I hadn’t even noticed the woman until I downloaded the photos! It doesn’t look very comfortable but what do I know!

  9. I am sure you will do fine on your driving test. Imagine if you lived in Poland the test written and oral is in Polish. Those fashions again, what is with that girl and showing off her ass? Just plain weird wonder what message she is sending out. The one thing I still not get is all the ugly huge tattoos, I just have this feeling that 10 yrs from now they will regret it.

    1. larrymuffin:
      As I mentioned, I hadn’t even noticed the woman until I downloaded the photos. I don’t know that she’s necessarily trying to send a message. I think she’s just being, cool, trendy, and comfortable… although how that can be comfortable I’ll never know. (So, I guess I won’t be wearing one.)

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